Our Charity News, Views, Advice and Personal Stories on the Issue of Domestic Abuse and coercive control
Blog Index
ADHD - Is it you, me or ADHD?
Are you falling through the gaps - the impact of menopause on mid-life women experiencing DA
Break the silence - Report it, Support it, Fund it.
Check in with your team - 1:6 men will experience DA in their lifetimes
Children are victims too - Recognising Children as Victims of Domestic Abuse
Child/Adolescent on Parent Abuse
Claire’s Law - the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme
Domestic abuse is everybody’s business - the social and economic costs
Elder abuse - Understanding elder abuse
Gaslighting - How to spot the signs
Home is supposed to be a safe space - restraining orders, financial abuse and the law
Men are victims of domestic abuse too
Mothers Day - We hope it’s a happy Mothers Day
Post separation abuse - Mortgages and Manipulation
Reproductive coercion - Forced pregnancy, abortion, birth control
Sexual harassment in universities - Walking the halls alone
Sharing is not always caring - intimate image sharing
Stalking and Harassment - From obsession to control, understanding the danger
Toxic relationships - We repeat what we don’t repair
Victim blaming - its shattering effects
29-31 May - 48 Hour Fundraising Relay Run Event with energie Fitness
Read about how you can have fun and raise money for the Helpline by taking part in this virtual run for charity.
Having someone to talk to - a lesbian survivor's story
A survivor’s story of an abusive lesbian relationship
Making that first call - a gay survivor's story
A survivor of an abusive gay relationship tells his story and the particular issues faced by family expectations.
Escape from the Merry go round
A victim’s story of life on the merry go round of a coercive, controlling and violent relationship and why it is so difficult to escape.
Life in lockdown - a survivor's story
A survivor’s story of life with an abusive partner in lockdown
Recognising it as abuse was the first step
Recognising is as abuse was the first step - an LGBT survivor’s story
Domestic abuse in rural areas
Domestic abuse in rural areas lasts on average 25% longer than in urban areas. Read some key findings and some victims’ stories.
Launch of Domestic Abuse Drop In Service in Watford
JKC Lawyers and Hertfordshire Domestic Abuse Helpline, working in partnership, are delighted to announce the launch of a domestic abuse drop in service at JKC’s offices in Watford with effect from 22 January 2020.
Operation Encompass
Find out about Operation Encompass and how it can help children who have witnessed domestic abuse.
Rosie Duffield's story
Rosie Duffield MP talks about her own experience of domestic abuse including controlling behaviour.
Operation Oak
An Officer from Herts Constabulary’s Domestic Abuse Investigation Support Unit talks about what his work involves.
Stalking and why it's so serious
In the second of our blogs the DCI in charge of the DAISU (Domestic Abuse Investigation and Safeguarding Unit), Herts Constabulary writes about the seriousness of stalking.
Stalking - case studies
DCI Stuart Cheek from Herts DAISU writes about two case studies on stalking which sadly ended in the deaths of two girls.
Tech abuse and survivor stories
Modern technology gives abusers ever-growing ways to control, isolate, humiliate and dominate women using the tools of everyday life . Whether you’re a survivor or a professional, Refuge’s resources will equip you to understand how to use different devices, apps, websites and networks safely.
Modern Slavery
Reported cases of people being exploited, forced into modern forms of slavery and trafficked into the UK are on the increase. We feature this blog because of the overlap between modern slavery and domestic abuse. Both men and women can be victims of domestic abuse, coercive and controlling behaviour and sexual exploitation. Our thanks go to the Herts Modern Slavery Partnership for this blog.
Legal guidance - Non-molestation orders, DVPOs, DVPNs
Sometimes it can be difficult to know what options are available to you legally when you are in an abusive relationship. This is a quick run through of some of those options. We would always recommend that you obtain professional advice. The Helpline can give you the phone numbers of legal firms in Herts that can help you.
There's no excuse for elder abuse
No matter how much you may love or care for the person who is hurting you, there is no excuse for Elder Abuse. You have the right to live in safety, free from abuse and neglect. Domestic Abuse of Older people is acknowledged to be under reported. In this guide on Elder Abuse we highlight how to spot the signs you are victim and how to get help.
Disability and Partner Abuse
This article talks through why disabled people can become more vulnerable to partner abuse, barriers to seeking support and advice on how to support a friend or relative you are concerned about
Domestic abuse shelters
If you are thinking of leaving an abusive relationship the thought of leaving your home to stay in a shelter or refuge can be concerning. In this article, we explain what domestic abuse shelters are and the invaluable services they provide for victims of abuse.